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Post by heehawes on Apr 6, 2020 9:39:17 GMT
I’ve been rollling my eyes far too much lately for somebody who lives alone.
People are ridiculous.
And I’m dramatic.
I’ll keep rolling my eyes even if nobody can see.
It’s probably loud enough to hear.
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Post by buffy on Apr 21, 2020 14:25:26 GMT
I've hurt myself pretty bad. I don't dare to tell my bf. But he 'll def see it soon. He doesn't understand my inner demons. I think I need help. 😞
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Post by Kimpie on Apr 21, 2020 15:44:39 GMT
I've hurt myself pretty bad. I don't dare to tell my bf. But he 'll def see it soon. He doesn't understand my inner demons. I think I need help. 😞 Talk to him. He should be your first support. And know self harm doesn't chase the demons...we are here to listen too. |
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Post by emmak on Apr 21, 2020 16:46:41 GMT
I've hurt myself pretty bad. I don't dare to tell my bf. But he 'll def see it soon. He doesn't understand my inner demons. I think I need help. 😞 Is there anyone u feel like u can talk to? Who maybe can get your thoughts on something else. Did u hurt yourself before? Good that u reach out to us! U are not alone! ❤️ |
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Post by buffy on Apr 21, 2020 18:48:47 GMT
I've hurt myself pretty bad. I don't dare to tell my bf. But he 'll def see it soon. He doesn't understand my inner demons. I think I need help. 😞 Is there anyone u feel like u can talk to? Who maybe can get your thoughts on something else. Did u hurt yourself before? Good that u reach out to us! U are not alone! ❤️ I talk to my bf sometimes, after the harm is done, after the anger, the breakdown comes. He listens, but he doesn't understand that for me the button in my head isn't that easy to switch. |
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Post by Dani on Apr 21, 2020 19:23:37 GMT
Is there anyone u feel like u can talk to? Who maybe can get your thoughts on something else. Did u hurt yourself before? Good that u reach out to us! U are not alone! ❤️ I talk to my bf sometimes, after the harm is done, after the anger, the breakdown comes. He listens, but he doesn't understand that for me the button in my head isn't that easy to switch. Hugs ❤️ I don’t know much about self harm but we have a kid (my bfs) and he’s done some punching on his own head and on the floor when his emotions get too much for him to handle. He doesn’t always have to be upset, even if it’s usually when one of the other siblings are not understanding him or he them or he feels like stuff are unfair. We’ve practiced a lot with him about putting words on his emotions (what’s wrong, why he’s upset, who did wrong, etc) and we’ve seen some change. I’m not comparing you to him, but I think we all will feel emotions to whatever degree we are born to feel. We just need to find ways to accept ourselves in this and practice practice practice on how to deal with it in a healthy way. We are good at stuff other people are struggling with. It’s not really easy for anyone out there, but we can try to help eachother even a little ❤️ |
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Post by Dani on Apr 21, 2020 19:25:15 GMT
Also, last time he said he feels safe when I hug him and hold him even when he’s upset even if he’s still mad. Made my heart blow. Do you feel anything like that if Sven would do, then you need to tell him. Anything that comforts you in a situation that’s hard for you, you need to do more of ❤️
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Post by blackrosefore on Apr 21, 2020 21:56:25 GMT
Is there anyone u feel like u can talk to? Who maybe can get your thoughts on something else. Did u hurt yourself before? Good that u reach out to us! U are not alone! ❤️ I talk to my bf sometimes, after the harm is done, after the anger, the breakdown comes. He listens, but he doesn't understand that for me the button in my head isn't that easy to switch. I'm a psych nurse. When was the last time you talked to your therapist? Do they have Zoom, or any other virtual platform for a telehealth visit? Self-harming is something I see on an almost regular basis. Self-harming doesn't help you with your depression symptoms, your anxiety symptoms, nor does it work for panic disorders. Self-harm only momentarily relieves the pain and frustrations. Only psychiatric counseling, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy/Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, ECT, or medications can actually help with your mood, and disrupt the urges to hurt yourself.
Are you still taking your meds, or have you run out of them? I don't mean to pry, but I see my patients at work everyday, with some of these same issues. And this is urgent. You need to tell your bf, that you're not feeling well. Whether your bf believes you or not, seek help! Iris, the best advice I can give you is to schedule to see your therapist/your psychiatrist right away. If you don't have one, talk to your PCP ( Primary Care Doc), and have them refer you to one. Don't sit on this. *hugs you hard*
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Post by buffy on Apr 22, 2020 9:13:02 GMT
I talk to my bf sometimes, after the harm is done, after the anger, the breakdown comes. He listens, but he doesn't understand that for me the button in my head isn't that easy to switch. Hugs ❤️ I don’t know much about self harm but we have a kid (my bfs) and he’s done some punching on his own head and on the floor when his emotions get too much for him to handle. He doesn’t always have to be upset, even if it’s usually when one of the other siblings are not understanding him or he them or he feels like stuff are unfair. We’ve practiced a lot with him about putting words on his emotions (what’s wrong, why he’s upset, who did wrong, etc) and we’ve seen some change. I’m not comparing you to him, but I think we all will feel emotions to whatever degree we are born to feel. We just need to find ways to accept ourselves in this and practice practice practice on how to deal with it in a healthy way. We are good at stuff other people are struggling with. It’s not really easy for anyone out there, but we can try to help eachother even a little ❤️ Yesterday I talked to him. He knows the triggers now, but it's hard for him to understand. I've always had a problem with channeling my anger, like punching walls or something to blow of steam, but lately I take it out on myself. Especially when I get angry at myself, I feel like I need to punish myself for whatever behavior or something I said or did. It's so hard to explain what goes on in my head at these moments. I really need to learn how to express my emotions and talk about my feelings. I don't know how this escalated to this point lately. Aren't these the kind of issues/problems teenagers deal with? I'm 37, aren't things supposed to be easier when you get older? Wtf is wrong with me ...? |
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Post by buffy on Apr 22, 2020 9:24:14 GMT
I talk to my bf sometimes, after the harm is done, after the anger, the breakdown comes. He listens, but he doesn't understand that for me the button in my head isn't that easy to switch. I'm a psych nurse. When was the last time you talked to your therapist? Do they have Zoom, or any other virtual platform for a telehealth visit? Self-harming is something I see on an almost regular basis. Self-harming doesn't help you with your depression symptoms, your anxiety symptoms, nor does it work for panic disorders. Self-harm only momentarily relieves the pain and frustrations. Only psychiatric counseling, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy/Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, ECT, or medications can actually help with your mood, and disrupt the urges to hurt yourself.
Are you still taking your meds, or have you run out of them? I don't mean to pry, but I see my patients at work everyday, with some of these same issues. And this is urgent. You need to tell your bf, that you're not feeling well. Whether your bf believes you or not, seek help! Iris, the best advice I can give you is to schedule to see your therapist/your psychiatrist right away. If you don't have one, talk to your PCP ( Primary Care Doc), and have them refer you to one. Don't sit on this. *hugs you hard*
I don't have a therapist. I've never been to a therapist before. I told him yesterday I need professional help. He didn't really react to it. He just told me not to overthink stuff, try to clear my mind. Easy for him to say. He doesn't understand a troubled mind. |
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Post by buffy on Apr 22, 2020 9:30:13 GMT
Also, last time he said he feels safe when I hug him and hold him even when he’s upset even if he’s still mad. Made my heart blow. Do you feel anything like that if Sven would do, then you need to tell him. Anything that comforts you in a situation that’s hard for you, you need to do more of ❤️ He tries to comfort me when I get a burst out. But oh my, I'm so fcking stubborn and I'm like 'leave me alone' while I really want him to hold me. At those moments the devil seems to take over. My heart wants him to comfort me, my mind says 'no bitch, you don't deserve it'. |
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Post by blackrosefore on Apr 22, 2020 11:44:19 GMT
Also, last time he said he feels safe when I hug him and hold him even when he’s upset even if he’s still mad. Made my heart blow. Do you feel anything like that if Sven would do, then you need to tell him. Anything that comforts you in a situation that’s hard for you, you need to do more of ❤️ He tries to comfort me when I get a burst out. But oh my, I'm so fcking stubborn and I'm like 'leave me alone' while I really want him to hold me. At those moments the devil seems to take over. My heart wants him to comfort me, my mind says 'no bitch, you don't deserve it'. You totally deserve to let yourself be comforted, Iris. It doesn't matter what age you are!!!! Punishing yourself physically doesn't 'correct' what you feel, does it? Maybe the feeling of atonement only works momentarily? I still think you should go see a therapist, asap.<3<3<3 |
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Post by Dani on Apr 22, 2020 11:55:58 GMT
Also, last time he said he feels safe when I hug him and hold him even when he’s upset even if he’s still mad. Made my heart blow. Do you feel anything like that if Sven would do, then you need to tell him. Anything that comforts you in a situation that’s hard for you, you need to do more of ❤️ He tries to comfort me when I get a burst out. But oh my, I'm so fcking stubborn and I'm like 'leave me alone' while I really want him to hold me. At those moments the devil seems to take over. My heart wants him to comfort me, my mind says 'no bitch, you don't deserve it'. Tell him this, that you still want him to hold you even if you push him away. Like I mentioned, I did the hug thing with the kid every time even if he was still mad and upset. I didn't care cause he didn't push me away or told me not to touch/hug him. It's OK to be upset. And days and days and days after he from no where said that he loves when I hug him when he's mad and that "it feels safe". So just tell Sven whenever you feel you are in a good mood that you appreciate when he does that even if you don't show it. I'm happy you've talked to him about it, he doesn't have to understand or trying to make any sense of it. He just needs to be there for you and try to help out in the way that's possible for him. While you also try working on this on your own with a therapist. Also, I read somewhere you said what's wrong with me. Nothing's wrong with you and you have no idea how common this is. Also, there's help to get! And tools that'll help! Hugs <3 |
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Post by buffy on Apr 22, 2020 12:52:38 GMT
He tries to comfort me when I get a burst out. But oh my, I'm so fcking stubborn and I'm like 'leave me alone' while I really want him to hold me. At those moments the devil seems to take over. My heart wants him to comfort me, my mind says 'no bitch, you don't deserve it'. You totally deserve to let yourself be comforted, Iris. It doesn't matter what age you are!!!! Punishing yourself physically doesn't 'correct' what you feel, does it? Maybe the feeling of atonement only works momentarily? I still think you should go see a therapist, asap.<3<3<3 Seeing a therapist is a huge step. 😔 |
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Post by Kimpie on Apr 22, 2020 12:55:29 GMT
You totally deserve to let yourself be comforted, Iris. It doesn't matter what age you are!!!! Punishing yourself physically doesn't 'correct' what you feel, does it? Maybe the feeling of atonement only works momentarily? I still think you should go see a therapist, asap.<3<3<3 Seeing a therapist is a huge step. 😔 Why? So many people see a therapist. It's nothing to be ashamed for. Give it a chance. It's a way of taking care of yourself. ❤ |
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