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Post by jonloch1 on Jul 5, 2024 19:23:27 GMT
Its really getting me down tbh. Firstly, I wanna say I'm lucky I have friends, including 2 best friends from school, so its not not having friends thats the issue. Its the whole 'we must meet up..its been a year'......'yeh we'll definitely do it next month'...then next months comes and because of jobs/kids/lífe it doesnt happen. and i wanna stress i know its not because they are secretly not bothering with me because one is a nurse and works long shifts and shes always facetiming me and seems just as frustrated as i am and we've even had the conversation where she said she feels like all she does is work and doesnt have a social life anymore. But it feels impossible to arrange even a catchup at her house anymore because she works days/nights/weekends, and my other friends its like yeh we can catchup in......lets see. 3 months time lol.
Anyone else feel this?? I probably feel it more as I have disabilities and cant work but I was talking to my sister and she said all adults feel this. its another shit thing that happens when you become an adult
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Post by Dani on Jul 9, 2024 7:48:15 GMT
I get what you mean, definitely. All of my best friends have small children too, and we always have a playdate booked but we all know 1/3 of us won't be there because of germs or something else lol. And with my bfs family (he has siblings and each one of them have 3-4 kids so huge families) and when we wanna meet with or without the kids we don't really find a date together cause it's impossible. We just invite them to whatever we wanna go and do or have planned to do, if we wanna hang out with them .... you know what I mean? Try that and see if it works better?  |
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Post by heehawes on Jul 11, 2024 5:02:13 GMT
Its easier to just not have friends.
Talk to random plants or appliances in your house/apartment.
"Hi, Philodendron."
"Good morning, Sofa."
"How you doing, Hair Dryer?"
People are dumb.
Good luck.
❤️
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Post by itsviki on Jul 14, 2024 12:42:48 GMT
Oh, definitely.
I have been struggling with this for a while. Sometimes it puts a toll on my mental health.
I know this is how life works. Its completely normal. All my closest friends have kids now and they moved away from the city (and Im happy for them). We keep in touch briefly, mostly online.
Im trying to make new friends but Its hard.
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Post by jonloch1 on Jul 29, 2024 20:19:27 GMT
I get what you mean, definitely. All of my best friends have small children too, and we always have a playdate booked but we all know 1/3 of us won't be there because of germs or something else lol. And with my bfs family (he has siblings and each one of them have 3-4 kids so huge families) and when we wanna meet with or without the kids we don't really find a date together cause it's impossible. We just invite them to whatever we wanna go and do or have planned to do, if we wanna hang out with them .... you know what I mean? Try that and see if it works better? its a good idea but the problem is my pal ís a nurse and always shattered as she's always bouncing from dayshift to nightshift constantly |
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Post by jonloch1 on Jul 29, 2024 20:26:37 GMT
Oh, definitely. I have been struggling with this for a while. Sometimes it puts a toll on my mental health. I know this is how life works. Its completely normal. All my closest friends have kids now and they moved away from the city (and Im happy for them). We keep in touch briefly, mostly online. Im trying to make new friends but Its hard. It kind of makes me feel better that everyone is ín the same boat. My best friend and I havent physically met up since April last year [we facetime] because shes a nurse who works long hours days and nights and weekends, and we're still saying we must meet up. and its just really hard and frustrating |
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