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Post by Dani on Aug 11, 2018 20:05:17 GMT
Are you drunk? Or are you just trying to convince me that I should get married that it will be good?  I’m not impossible, only thinking out loud and reflecting from nowhere. If I’ll marry one day, there won’t be more than 50 ppl lolz. Of course. Freedom, love and honesty and hard work, but one person in a gazillion really gets it and means it. Maybe I’m just having too many bad examples from my own life. I donno. Also, you’re totally right about that. They get married because it’s expected, which to me is to live someone else’s life and not the life you wanna love. Also, people change, which is normal. I think that’s a reason so many get divorced. They don’t grow together, they grow apart. And that’s fine too, then it wasn’t meant to be. It sucks, but don’t force it just for the sake of it. I’m sorry if I sound egoistic and hard, but it’s just my opinion. Trust me, I probably want forever more than anyone who ever got married lol.  Oh, that lucky woman who you're gonna marry ...  Haha, you’re extra fast tonight when I’m tipsy and spelling like a monkey |
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Post by heehawes on Aug 11, 2018 20:11:12 GMT
Are you drunk? Or are you just trying to convince me that I should get married and that it will be good? I’m not impossible, only thinking out loud and reflecting from nowhere. If I’ll marry one day, there won’t be more than 50 ppl lolz. Of course. Freedom, love and honesty and hard work, but one person in a gazillion really gets it and means it. Maybe I’m just having too many bad examples from my own life. I donno. Yes, you’re totally right about that. They get married because it’s expected, which to me is to live someone else’s life and not the life you wanna live. Also, people change, which is normal. I think that’s a reason so many get divorced. They don’t grow together, they grow apart (probably due bad communication or being too different). And that’s fine too, then it wasn’t meant to be. It sucks, but don’t force it just for the sake of it. I’m sorry if I sound egoistic and hard, but it’s just my opinion. Trust me, I probably want forever more than anyone who ever got married lol. Nooo. Not drunk (but maybe the vicodins are melting my brain) I’d never try and convince anybody one way or the other about anything like that. It’s not for everybody. And yup. There’s good examples and bad examples and people can change and you can change and people can grow together and apart. Love is a gamble..... And to me, it seems like there’s so many more forces out there that can set up a marriage to fail. Like everything is working against its success. But a little part of me believes love can beat all those negatives. |
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Post by heehawes on Aug 11, 2018 20:12:27 GMT
I’m sad when love dies.
Not when marriages die.
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Post by heehawes on Aug 11, 2018 20:22:55 GMT
Sometimes we need to fall.....
My sisters marriage wasn’t a failure.
It ended, but I don’t think she feels horrible about it.
The same way people think it’s expected of them to get married, some of those people feel judged by the outside as being a failure when their marriages fail. Again living somebody else’s life rather than their own.
Some give up easy. Some hang on too long.
It’s about being honest w/ yourself and honest with the other.
My sister is three years in I believe with her girlfriend, and I’ve never seen her happier. I don’t know if the two of them will ever get married, or if they want to.
Or if it’s even on the radar.
But her heart is happy.....
So ❤️
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Post by Dani on Aug 11, 2018 20:30:10 GMT
Are you drunk? Or are you just trying to convince me that I should get married and that it will be good? I’m not impossible, only thinking out loud and reflecting from nowhere. If I’ll marry one day, there won’t be more than 50 ppl lolz. Of course. Freedom, love and honesty and hard work, but one person in a gazillion really gets it and means it. Maybe I’m just having too many bad examples from my own life. I donno. Yes, you’re totally right about that. They get married because it’s expected, which to me is to live someone else’s life and not the life you wanna live. Also, people change, which is normal. I think that’s a reason so many get divorced. They don’t grow together, they grow apart (probably due bad communication or being too different). And that’s fine too, then it wasn’t meant to be. It sucks, but don’t force it just for the sake of it. I’m sorry if I sound egoistic and hard, but it’s just my opinion. Trust me, I probably want forever more than anyone who ever got married lol. Nooo. Not drunk (but maybe the vicodins are melting my brain) I’d never try and convince anybody one way or the other about anything like that. It’s not for everybody. And yup. There’s good examples and bad examples and people can change and you can change and people can grow together and apart. Love is a gamble..... And to me, it seems like there’s so many more forces out there that can set up a marriage to fail. Like everything is working against its success. But a little part of me believes love can beat all those negatives. I know bobeh, I was just kidding. You gave me a good example and that’s fine but it doesn’t change what I think about marriage in general. I’m sure I just have to meet the right person, who feels the same and thinks the same about it, for it to ever happen. I don’t see marriage as a way of loving someone more than what you can do without marrying. |
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Post by heehawes on Aug 11, 2018 20:34:45 GMT
Nooo. Not drunk (but maybe the vicodins are melting my brain) I’d never try and convince anybody one way or the other about anything like that. It’s not for everybody. And yup. There’s good examples and bad examples and people can change and you can change and people can grow together and apart. Love is a gamble..... And to me, it seems like there’s so many more forces out there that can set up a marriage to fail. Like everything is working against its success. But a little part of me believes love can beat all those negatives. I know bobeh, I was just kidding. You gave me a good example and that’s fine but it doesn’t change what I think about marriage in general. I’m sure I just have to meet the right person, who feels the same and thinks the same about it, for it to ever happen. I don’t see marriage as a way of loving someone more than what you can do without marrying. Perfecto answer. I don’t think marriage defines love. It’s just one of the many way people CAN show their love / commitment. Not the only way. |
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Post by Dani on Aug 11, 2018 20:35:34 GMT
I know bobeh, I was just kidding. You gave me a good example and that’s fine but it doesn’t change what I think about marriage in general. I’m sure I just have to meet the right person, who feels the same and thinks the same about it, for it to ever happen. I don’t see marriage as a way of loving someone more than what you can do without marrying. Perfecto answer. I don’t think marriage defines love. It’s just one of the many way people CAN show their love / commitment. Not the only way. Yeah, but why they say forever when 1% of them means it. |
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Post by Danielle on Aug 11, 2018 20:35:50 GMT
A 300 person wedding to me is a bit much. Shhh. Don’t say that to the couple, But that goes along w/ what I was saying “some people feel like they have to get married” or that they do it for the outside world. I know a lot of people, but there’s no way I could come up with a guest list that big if I tried.... Some live entirely for show, it’s rather sad but it must be an easy trap to fall into. Constantly seeking approval. It’s tiresome to be a part of, though. I just want real, meaningful relationships with the people in my life. There’s too much shit going on in the world to waste the precious time we have with pettiness. |
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Post by heehawes on Aug 11, 2018 20:49:50 GMT
A 300 person wedding to me is a bit much. Shhh. Don’t say that to the couple, But that goes along w/ what I was saying “some people feel like they have to get married” or that they do it for the outside world. I know a lot of people, but there’s no way I could come up with a guest list that big if I tried.... Some live entirely for show, it’s rather sad but it must be an easy trap to fall into. Constantly seeking approval. It’s tiresome to be a part of, though. I just want real, meaningful relationships with the people in my life. There’s too much shit going on in the world to waste the precious time we have with pettiness. That’s why I think some of the spur of the moment marriage are super cute. When it’s done just for the two involved, because that’s what THEY want... Like a couple being together, and knowing their love, and having it be between the two of them, not for the whole planet. Those couples that had no plans on marriage and were just living in their love And then like their on the beach walking or like at the lake or in the mountains and it’s like “let’s get married” “are you serious?” “Are you” “mmm hmmm” and then it’s all corny movie stuff and blah blah blah maarti i d Some of those end up fucked too though, so 🤷🏻♀️ It’s all personal preference though. I also understand wedding days and wanting to share your day with important family members and friends and having people there. There is pettiness though in so many fucking people. Everybody trying to one up one another. |
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Post by cpf on Aug 11, 2018 22:48:57 GMT
I so would be a stormchaser if i lived in the usa
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Post by Dani on Aug 12, 2018 16:02:00 GMT
So I got a hole in my pinky from using my phone I assume. And I just now noticed there’s a little blister there too of some kind 🤣 WTF.
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Post by drnick on Aug 12, 2018 16:03:51 GMT
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Post by Dani on Aug 12, 2018 16:09:09 GMT
So I got a hole in my pinky from using my phone I assume. And I just now noticed there’s a little blister there too of some kind 🤣 WTF.  You've a hole in what?  And blisters from using your phone?   Yeahhh, look here (old pic). And then the skin there at the part where it’s benign is a lil round a hard 🤣🤣🤣 |
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Post by Dani on Aug 14, 2018 7:51:56 GMT
I woke up with a hangover but my throat is not sore anymore and my nose is better too wtf hahaha. But I am still coughing. Did the wine heal me or what? Is that the conclusion? |
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Post by heehawes on Aug 14, 2018 8:15:12 GMT
I woke up with a hangover but my throat is not sore anymore and my nose is better too wtf hahaha. But I am still coughing. Did the wine heal me or what? Is that the conclusion? Yay! You’re better! Should I try the wine healing tonight? |
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I’m not impossible, only thinking out loud and reflecting from nowhere. If I’ll marry one day, there won’t be more than 50 ppl lolz.
Oh, that lucky woman who you're gonna marry ... 
You've a hole in what? 
And blisters from using your phone? 
