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Post by drnick on Jun 16, 2018 9:26:39 GMT
1.3 kg more junk in the trunk. I thought it was 10 because that’s how it feels 🤣 You need to cut the snacks during movie nights.   |
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Post by Dani on Jun 16, 2018 9:39:52 GMT
1.3 kg more junk in the trunk. I thought it was 10 because that’s how it feels 🤣 You need to cut the snacks during movie nights. Nah. That will just make me evil. I need to start sweating more 🤗 Considering that I thought I was gonna die after swimming four lengths the other weekend... 😬🤷🏽♀️ |
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Post by drnick on Jun 16, 2018 10:19:04 GMT
You need to cut the snacks during movie nights. Nah. That will just make me evil. I need to start sweating more 🤗 Considering that I thought I was gonna die after swimming four lengths the other weekend... 😬🤷🏽♀️  Never knew those Snickers commercials were inspired by you.  |
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Post by Dani on Jun 16, 2018 10:24:35 GMT
Nah. That will just make me evil. I need to start sweating more 🤗 Considering that I thought I was gonna die after swimming four lengths the other weekend... 😬🤷🏽♀️ Neither did I! |
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Post by Dani on Jun 16, 2018 14:27:52 GMT
Headache never goes awayyy. I wonder why 😫🤦🏻♀️
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Post by Dani on Jun 16, 2018 17:20:11 GMT
Had to cancel my plans for tonight cause no way in hell I'm drinking margaritas in any near future  
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Post by drnick on Jun 16, 2018 17:23:12 GMT
I thought you'd live in Margaritaville. 
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Post by Dani on Jun 16, 2018 17:41:44 GMT
Hahahahaha, yupp! Going in and out of town😅 |
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Post by alrightsir on Jun 18, 2018 15:53:02 GMT
Damn....my boyfriend has just left to do the El Camino. And suddenly all the emotions hit me now that he's gone. I love him so much dammit. For the first time in my life I feel horrifically vulnerable. These last months my life was pretty much boring and emotionally depriving. Nothing really moved my emotions from the safe scale. And as the days were coming I felt so scared that he's going away. He's too precious to lose him. And I was always the person who said "Don't worry! Why to be scared? Don't overthink it! Nothing will happen!" to others and now I'M FEELING IT. He's the one who's 'always there'. I'm like a bird and he's the nest. And now it's reversed and it makes me feel instable for a moment. It's pretty intetesting and scary haha. But also made me sure that I love his stupid face more than anything. Lucky fucker. 🤣 Good luck. ❤️ ”Absence is to love as wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and enkindles the great”I love that line! I wonder how I will feel about it 3 weeks later tho 🤣 |
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Post by alrightsir on Jun 18, 2018 16:30:50 GMT
Damn....my boyfriend has just left to do the El Camino. And suddenly all the emotions hit me now that he's gone. I love him so much dammit. For the first time in my life I feel horrifically vulnerable. These last months my life was pretty much boring and emotionally depriving. Nothing really moved my emotions from the safe scale. And as the days were coming I felt so scared that he's going away. He's too precious to lose him. And I was always the person who said "Don't worry! Why to be scared? Don't overthink it! Nothing will happen!" to others and now I'M FEELING IT. He's the one who's 'always there'. I'm like a bird and he's the nest. And now it's reversed and it makes me feel instable for a moment. It's pretty intetesting and scary haha. But also made me sure that I love his stupid face more than anything. Lucky fucker. 🤣 Sorry for going off topic there first but Jeff pissed me off last night. Or was it my hormones. And wine. I don't know. I was emotional so had to deal with that first before responding to you. How long have you two been together? I think this is one of the best feelings in the world. Just letting them go to be free and then having them coming back, choosing you. Although, I think you will like it better next time when you experienced it once already and found your peace in it. I'm super happy that you're happy <3 I know you've struggled a bit before. ALSO. I said I wanted to do parts of it too the year I turned 30 after watching that movie, which I've forgotten the name of. Just wandering in the sun, stopping at vineyards and drinking wine, and then moving on the next day and doing the same for like a month, haha. Who's he going with btw? Well we've met in October 2013. I walked into a clothing store, I was scrolling through trousers and someone came to me and asked if he could help. I looked up with instantly saying "no thanks" then went back to the trousers. Then I was like "wait damn who IS THAT?" But I was with my mum so we've left but I couldn't let it go so I went back to try on more "trousers". Luckily there was no size for me so I left my number there for him to be able to notice me when they got the size... and to have a chance to ask me out. He seemed super sweet and into me too so I was like "now your turn". Then nothing. So I went back and I was like "whatever I'll just ask him out". But that day he was not working so I asked his coworkers (don't ask, something else was controlling me lol) if I had a chance and they said no because he's straight. I was like "wow okay well was worth a try". Then 2 months passed and he called me asking if I was serious. I was like yeah. So he asked me to go to a store to meet him when he's finished. I was SUPER HAPPY. I looked cool, I had died blonde hair at that time so I even asked my hairdresser for a closer appointment to look awesome lol. So I went there and he said: "Thank you for asking me out because that meant so much to me. I struggle with my self worth and confidence and the fact that a hot guy like you asked me out gives me so much energy. I'm so happy that you've came into the shop and do that, you literally made my last weeks amazing. I couldn't stop thinking about you............... but I have a boyfriend. We have a lot of problems and it doesn't work yet I wanna give him another chance...so...yeah,sorry bout that. Bye!" I was SO PISSED. Like, if you want to struggle and feel awful, then do it. Fuck off. And I didn't even know his name. So from that moment we've always seen each other in random places and my stomach had butterflies going all over every single damn time I looked into his eyes. It was just something else. Then 2 years later I saw him again and I felt nothing. And i was SO FREAKING HAPPY, textinh my friends I was finally over him. 1 week went by and I got a message on FB and it was him. He was single and asked me if my offer from 2 yeara ago still stands. I was laughing so loud that it's happening like this. Life can be so absurd. But I was like well I'm single again too so I give him another chance but I'm not really feeling this. We've met and I was keeping distance and asking him all the reasons why he made his decisions. But I can't lie it took me like 10 minutes to forget everything. He was just too perfect with his deep brown puppy eyes and he had this bittersweet vibe which is my weak point. He was dating like 2 other guys too but a day later he ended everything with them and we basically spent every day and night with each other. One week later he asked me if I were his bf and I said yes. Sooooo yeah, we got together in 2015 September so basically we're together for nearly 3 years now. Crazy. Especially that the first 2 years were everything P!nk is singing about in her loveyouhateyou songs. We seriously had fights like no one else, 80% of the times the reason was him not having grown uo yet. And there were times we were on the edge of breaking up. He was too clingy because of his still low self esteem and lack of confidence. He was jealous af too and I gave him 0 reason to be so. It was really toxic and I still feel the scars fromt those times. And I was fighting him to get a job he loves, to work out, to be with friends he loves, to communicate properly and listen to people rather than just talk continously. It was hard but as soon as he started to build himself up (he had to or else he was loosing me) he became more and more stable, nice, caring and loving, and our relationship turned into what I always felt it could be. Everybody asked me why I'm still holding on but I just knew what was inside and I'm not a quitter. So now he's gone to do the El Camino which would have been absolutely impossible a year ago for him, because of himself in the first place. He's doing it alone now,on his own, and I hope he's gonna find even more strength and courage in himself, seeing that he's capable of much more than he thinks of himself. And this time I sit back and let him do the steps he has to. |
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Post by Dani on Jun 18, 2018 17:42:30 GMT
Sorry for going off topic there first but Jeff pissed me off last night. Or was it my hormones. And wine. I don't know. I was emotional so had to deal with that first before responding to you. How long have you two been together? I think this is one of the best feelings in the world. Just letting them go to be free and then having them coming back, choosing you. Although, I think you will like it better next time when you experienced it once already and found your peace in it. I'm super happy that you're happy <3 I know you've struggled a bit before. ALSO. I said I wanted to do parts of it too the year I turned 30 after watching that movie, which I've forgotten the name of. Just wandering in the sun, stopping at vineyards and drinking wine, and then moving on the next day and doing the same for like a month, haha. Who's he going with btw? Well we've met in October 2013. I walked into a clothing store, I was scrolling through trousers and someone came to me and asked if he could help. I looked up with instantly saying "no thanks" then went back to the trousers. Then I was like "wait damn who IS THAT?" But I was with my mum so we've left but I couldn't let it go so I went back to try on more "trousers". Luckily there was no size for me so I left my number there for him to be able to notice me when they got the size... and to have a chance to ask me out. He seemed super sweet and into me too so I was like "now your turn". Then nothing. So I went back and I was like "whatever I'll just ask him out". But that day he was not working so I asked his coworkers (don't ask, something else was controlling me lol) if I had a chance and they said no because he's straight. I was like "wow okay well was worth a try". Then 2 months passed and he called me asking if I was serious. I was like yeah. So he asked me to go to a store to meet him when he's finished. I was SUPER HAPPY. I looked cool, I had died blonde hair at that time so I even asked my hairdresser for a closer appointment to look awesome lol. So I went there and he said: "Thank you for asking me out because that meant so much to me. I struggle with my self worth and confidence and the fact that a hot guy like you asked me out gives me so much energy. I'm so happy that you've came into the shop and do that, you literally made my last weeks amazing. I couldn't stop thinking about you............... but I have a boyfriend. We have a lot of problems and it doesn't work yet I wanna give him another chance...so...yeah,sorry bout that. Bye!" I was SO PISSED. Like, if you want to struggle and feel awful, then do it. Fuck off. And I didn't even know his name. So from that moment we've always seen each other in random places and my stomach had butterflies going all over every single damn time I looked into his eyes. It was just something else. Then 2 years later I saw him again and I felt nothing. And i was SO FREAKING HAPPY, textinh my friends I was finally over him. 1 week went by and I got a message on FB and it was him. He was single and asked me if my offer from 2 yeara ago still stands. I was laughing so loud that it's happening like this. Life can be so absurd. But I was like well I'm single again too so I give him another chance but I'm not really feeling this. We've met and I was keeping distance and asking him all the reasons why he made his decisions. But I can't lie it took me like 10 minutes to forget everything. He was just too perfect with his deep brown puppy eyes and he had this bittersweet vibe which is my weak point. He was dating like 2 other guys too but a day later he ended everything with them and we basically spent every day and night with each other. One week later he asked me if I were his bf and I said yes. Sooooo yeah, we got together in 2015 September so basically we're together for nearly 3 years now. Crazy. Especially that the first 2 years were everything P!nk is singing about in her loveyouhateyou songs. We seriously had fights like no one else, 80% of the times the reason was him not having grown uo yet. And there were times we were on the edge of breaking up. He was too clingy because of his still low self esteem and lack of confidence. He was jealous af too and I gave him 0 reason to be so. It was really toxic and I still feel the scars fromt those times. And I was fighting him to get a job he loves, to work out, to be with friends he loves, to communicate properly and listen to people rather than just talk continously. It was hard but as soon as he started to build himself up (he had to or else he was loosing me) he became more and more stable, nice, caring and loving, and our relationship turned into what I always felt it could be. Everybody asked me why I'm still holding on but I just knew what was inside and I'm not a quitter. So now he's gone to do the El Camino which would have been absolutely impossible a year ago for him, because of himself in the first place. He's doing it alone now,on his own, and I hope he's gonna find even more strength and courage in himself, seeing that he's capable of much more than he thinks of himself. And this time I sit back and let him do the steps he has to. Thanks for sharing this with me - my favorite stories are to hear about how people met  The first part gave me chills (good ones) and then it didn't turn out as I had hoped when I read it, but in the end it did  Struggle happens within any relationship, I mean the word says it itself "relation/ship". It's a ship you have to build together that will last in storms and sunshines But I do think that people stay far too long in something bad and tbh the reason is not because of a history together, the reason is hope that things will change for the better. Low esteem people tend to take things they have within out on the person closest to them emotionally. I personally could never again get into something with someone that has a lowesteen. EVER. I understand people that give these people a chance, and it is FINE as long as they don't take it out on you. I guess it takes practice and time, but it's not impossible. In your case things seem to have got way better and I'm happy for you, even if you're not there completely yet. Just don't forget yourself and your own needs. I know you want everything to be good and happy and you understand him better than he does, but there's two of you and you need to try a little bit harder putting yourself first You've mostly talked about him in this post, if you haven't noticed? Don't forget about YOU! <3 |
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Post by Dani on Jun 18, 2018 18:28:38 GMT
Also I noticedI had forgot to write that I think he did the right thing, not for himself because he was obviously not happy, but for you, to stay with his bf that time he was with him after you two met. He needed that time to feel like it's o v e r w i t h. You'd rather have it that way than him jumping into something with you and then regretting it and going back just because he's not done with his ex. Also, if you for some reason think he didn't pick you when he could, and it stills bugs you, don't. Just believe that he needed that time to realize things himself. I mean, in the end he chose you sooooo |
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Post by alrightsir on Jun 19, 2018 8:17:37 GMT
Also I noticedI had forgot to write that I think he did the right thing, not for himself because he was obviously not happy, but for you, to stay with his bf that time he was with him after you two met. He needed that time to feel like it's o v e r w i t h. You'd rather have it that way than him jumping into something with you and then regretting it and going back just because he's not done with his ex. Also, if you for some reason think he didn't pick you when he could, and it stills bugs you, don't. Just believe that he needed that time to realize things himself. I mean, in the end he chose you sooooo I'm glad at that time he didn't say yes. I also needed those 2 years to find myself so I can start a relationship with stable mind. So looking back it's obviously good that he said no. I learnt that a way ago that I shouldn't worry about things not working out. They will when it's time and at the end everything turns good. The thing is, all the fights we had was about him letting me go basically. He wanted me to be with him only, he was jealous of my friends and family. Since I have a very open mind and free spirit it was hard for him to swallow it. I was NOT giving myself and my freedom up. That doesn't mean I didn't care about him, I gave him everything, but most of the times he wanted more and more and I had to fight for my individuality. But now he realized that he was so wrong too so everything is fine. So it's interesting that it came off as I didn't care about myself, because it was quite the opposite 😄 I stood strong 😄 Also, going back to the fact that it took 2 years for him to come back. Now I wish it would have been more. I feel like I haven't lived enough and I'm still young and I just wanna have fun. But at the same time I just love him so much so obviously it's quite contradicitonal but thruthfully quite different feelings from each other. I feel like if I don't do it now I will miss out a lot a things which I will regret later. I feel bad feeling this way but I can't help myself 🤷 And he still doesn't wanna say yes to that threesome idea 🙄🙊 |
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Post by Dani on Jun 19, 2018 8:29:58 GMT
Also I noticedI had forgot to write that I think he did the right thing, not for himself because he was obviously not happy, but for you, to stay with his bf that time he was with him after you two met. He needed that time to feel like it's o v e r w i t h. You'd rather have it that way than him jumping into something with you and then regretting it and going back just because he's not done with his ex. Also, if you for some reason think he didn't pick you when he could, and it stills bugs you, don't. Just believe that he needed that time to realize things himself. I mean, in the end he chose you sooooo I'm glad at that time he didn't say yes. I also needed those 2 years to find myself so I can start a relationship with stable mind. So looking back it's obviously good that he said no. I learnt that a way ago that I shouldn't worry about things not working out. They will when it's time and at the end everything turns good. The thing is, all the fights we had was about him letting me go basically. He wanted me to be with him only, he was jealous of my friends and family. Since I have a very open mind and free spirit it was hard for him to swallow it. I was NOT giving myself and my freedom up. That doesn't mean I didn't care about him, I gave him everything, but most of the times he wanted more and more and I had to fight for my individuality. But now he realized that he was so wrong too so everything is fine. So it's interesting that it came off as I didn't care about myself, because it was quite the opposite 😄 I stood strong 😄 Also, going back to the fact that it took 2 years for him to come back. Now I wish it would have been more. I feel like I haven't lived enough and I'm still young and I just wanna have fun. But at the same time I just love him so much so obviously it's quite contradicitonal but thruthfully quite different feelings from each other. I feel like if I don't do it now I will miss out a lot a things which I will regret later. I feel bad feeling this way but I can't help myself 🤷 And he still doesn't wanna say yes to that threesome idea 🙄🙊 Threesome idea? I remember you telling this before too, because when I read it it was like it was about my last relationship, with all the trust issues (for no reason!), and the "glued together" thing. I think there's deeper things than him finding himself and working on it himself and understanding how a healthy relationship should be. It could be validation that he never got from a parent that he need to work out with together with a therapist. I donno? How old is he? I didn't mean it came off that you didn't care about yourself, I think it takes a lot of strength and courage to take someone else under your wings like we both did/are doing with these partners. I have no doubt in that you are strong and have a healthy way of thinking. I meant more like, the next level, you want someone to bring out the best in you, to lift you up, to care about you, to listen to you, to ask about your needs, listen to your dreams, to be there for you when you cry or are struggling, etc. To ask yourself what you need and to just reflect upon if he actually gives you that |
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Post by itsviki on Jun 19, 2018 9:12:48 GMT
Iv been eating and drinking like a fat piece of sh.t lately. Can't wait to finish my exams so I can get back on track
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Never knew those Snickers commercials were inspired by you. 
The first part gave me chills (good ones) and then it didn't turn out as I had hoped when I read it, but in the end it did 
