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Post by Kimpie on Oct 21, 2019 21:06:15 GMT
There been some troubles after birth of my son and he couldn't travel by plane...and I have a husband who thinks he is still too little to travel long distances...I told him: come on, everyone does...need to convince him, really. Your time to travel will come soon if it's not now  Hang in there! Oh it will...lots of cities in my mind...  |
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Post by Dani on Oct 21, 2019 21:13:14 GMT
I don't think there's a risk of any change even if I'd want to. That good I know myself. The only thing that changes with me is if I want to have long hair or short hair (I am never happy with one of them for too long) and also how I feel within. Sometimes I feel super girly sometimes not at all. And I dress after what I feel like. And it has nothing to do with my environmentl, so it's all from within. And tbh it's the only constant change I still feel about myself. I don't think anything else is fortunate to be changed  I think I just have to realize I'm some kind of hippie pretty much. I FEAR what I'd call "plain" life with routines, bills, same work routines and all that. It would KILL me to have a life like that. I envy people that are happy with one same thing for 100 years. I am a constant in changing in all kinds of ways in what I like, do, want, and all that. And tbh I think I'm pretty scared of living life in any other way than most people do, cause there are too few examples of that. I donno if I make any sense at all. I still want kids and a life long lasting relationship and a job I love, but at the same time I don't want to feel that boring, full of routines kind of life and I think I'm scared of actually trying so hard to like it that I end up liking it but it's not really what I want ... SEE I'M COMPLICATED There’s probably a balance somewhere, but I have never managed to find it. to me, it seems like some people are scared of change, so they stick to routine. others are scared of routine, so they are constantly moving - but I guess to an extent, this is their routine, it’s their safe space. I think it benefits everybody to push themselves out past their safe zones from time to time, I never do it, but I probably should.... I am far from an adult. I feel like I’ve failed in many peoples eyes because I haven’t accomplished x y and z at the the same time, we only live now, so the argument can be made to “stick to what works for you”, do what makes you happy See my train of thought makes no sense. but I think there can exist balance somewhere between change and routine and patterns and evolving I think your talks to yourself are you figuring out where your balance is - nobody can tell us where ours is found except ourselves... you will find it. you will get all those things you want. you are not crazy, and your being complicated is not a bad thing. id call you complex before complicated. You are clever. I never though of that. I know we're all wired differently and I like that. But that routines are safe for someone and for someone they are scary just opened my eyes. Honestly I am surprised that I've found a work place where I feel like I'm constantly learning and it's STILL fulfilling me and my energy - after five-six years (fine it's two different positions but still). And honestly I don't feel the need to change anything UNLESS I want to do something else or that I'm not stimulated enough. I could climb the highest of stairs if I just manage to find them stairs. Work wise I feel like I'm not "stuck" but I feel like I'm in a "safe" place. For sure. It's a comfort cause I know it from inside out and I know every single person that I need to know, almost too. It's stimulating at the same time. It's a good income. And I loved to have it that way. It's pretty much perfect. And I'm not planning to change that unless I wake up one day and I feel like it. I'm not saying I'm not there yet. But I'm saying that even if I long for stimulation and no routines, I'm still capable of routines if they are the right routines for me. And you are right in all of what you say, thanks for that. Sometimes I just wish I knew what to do with all that's within me. I try but most times I end up feeling numb instead cause that's not it |
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Post by qcpatdive on Oct 21, 2019 23:23:29 GMT
Haha, I got it the other way last summer...what if I had done that, would I be happier now? I am in that routine...I'm 37 and in a 18 year long relationship...don't get me wrong I love this man and my two adorable kids...but then I see people like you travelling the world without anyone to explain to what you're doing. I sometimes wonder what if I got no kids...I probably saw half of the world by now... And these days...it's just fucking work...but that's a whole different thing...I was happy in my job but some people ruining it now. OMG are you living my life hahaha! I'm also in a 18 year long relationship, kids (4) and all that. I can't go where I want, when I want. And if I decide to travel alone, that means less time and less money for my family 🤷 And traveling with 4 kids, money is obviously an issue. It's hard sometimes. 😞 |
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Post by qcpatdive on Oct 22, 2019 0:14:43 GMT
I FEAR what I'd call "plain" life with routines, bills, same work routines and all that. It would KILL me to have a life like that. I envy people that are happy with one same thing for 100 years. I am a constant in changing in all kinds of ways in what I like, do, want, and all that. And tbh I think I'm pretty scared of living life in any other way than most people do, cause there are too few examples of that. I donno if I make any sense at all. I still want kids and a life long lasting relationship and a job I love, but at the same time I don't want to feel that boring, full of routines kind of life and I think I'm scared of actually trying so hard to like it that I end up liking it but it's not really what I want ... SEE I'M COMPLICATED There are so many ways to live our lives. And that's okay to live it differently than the others. Saying that, I don't know what is "everybody's life", these days. I got married when I was 22 and I was the only one of my friends who ever got married. I'm the only one who is not separated or single. I'm also the only one with 4 children. What I see around me is people having 1-2 kids half of the time (shared custody) or living alone and people who have time for themselves. I'm not saying that it is bad, not at all. That's MY perception, which may not be the reality. Even if I probably live this "most common, plain, routine or boring kind of life", I often feel alone living this kind of life... I don't know if it makes sense what I'm trying to say.. We always compare our lives with others. But if we live the life we want, I think we are good, whatever it is.❤️ Also, I have to say that having children is not boring at all. That's the only thing that I won't regret haha! |
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Post by Dani on Oct 22, 2019 5:29:20 GMT
I FEAR what I'd call "plain" life with routines, bills, same work routines and all that. It would KILL me to have a life like that. I envy people that are happy with one same thing for 100 years. I am a constant in changing in all kinds of ways in what I like, do, want, and all that. And tbh I think I'm pretty scared of living life in any other way than most people do, cause there are too few examples of that. I donno if I make any sense at all. I still want kids and a life long lasting relationship and a job I love, but at the same time I don't want to feel that boring, full of routines kind of life and I think I'm scared of actually trying so hard to like it that I end up liking it but it's not really what I want ... SEE I'M COMPLICATED There are so many ways to live our lives. And that's okay to live it differently than the others. Saying that, I don't know what is "everybody's life", these days. I got married when I was 22 and I was the only one of my friends who ever got married. I'm the only one who is not separated or single. I'm also the only one with 4 children. What I see around me is people having 1-2 kids half of the time (shared custody) or living alone and people who have time for themselves. I'm not saying that it is bad, not at all. That's MY perception, which may not be the reality. Even if I probably live this "most common, plain, routine or boring kind of life", I often feel alone living this kind of life... I don't know if it makes sense what I'm trying to say.. We always compare our lives with others. But if we live the life we want, I think we are good, whatever it is.❤️ Also, I have to say that having children is not boring at all. That's the only thing that I won't regret haha! No, if I mentioned kids in a sentence with the word boring, it’s to describe what I mean with the “casual” life that consists of repetition. You do this and you do that and your set then you repeat it all until you die. Some are perfectly happy with that but to me it’s scary. Kids are the best thing there is and I can’t wait to have my own ☺️ I never really compared my life to anyone but I do look at other people’s lives to help figure out what it is that I want mine to be like. I know it’s never what we plan in the end anyway and I’m open to that but I like to reflect and I’d like to figure out what I wanna aim for. I kinda know, but I donno if it’s the right match for me. I mean, it will be whatever it turns out to be, I know I’ll make it and change it until I’m happy, but I’m at that point now where I need to decide some stuff and I’m questioning everything all the time. I’m sure it’ll all be good in the end. Thank you so much for your thoughts btw ❤️ |
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Post by Dani on Oct 22, 2019 5:35:21 GMT
Also I admire couples that love eachother after so many years, and work on having the love last forever❤️ You guys are the ideal and definitely not the boring ones. The boring ones are the ppl that stick together even if there’s no love left, just because they get lazy or sticking together to make their kids happy. OR the ones that leave as soon as they find the slightest reason. Coming from a family where they stayed together cause of me and growing up in that was shit. So I’ll always think if there’s no love left even after you worked through it and tried more than there are enough times, then go decide together that it’s better to end it, for everyone’s sake🤷♀️
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Post by Dani on Oct 22, 2019 20:25:09 GMT
One of my “friends” said routines is a thing that depends on how you see it, and what kinda energy you wanna “load” it with. Routines can be good and bad. Depends on what they are. I guess he’s right. And it’s pretty much what I tried to say. I want a life of good routines and not boring and bad ones. That’s it🤷♀️
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Post by heehawes on Oct 22, 2019 20:45:43 GMT
One of my “friends” said routines is a thing that depends on how you see it, and what kinda energy you wanna “load” it with. Routines can be good and bad. Depends on what they are. I guess he’s right. And it’s pretty much what I tried to say. I want a life of good routines and not boring and bad ones. That’s it🤷♀️ You + Universe will make the things you want become real. Universe will give you the tools, and you will make it happen. And if the universe doesn’t give you exactly the tools you need, I’m sure you’ll forge your own tools and make it happen anyway. You’re good at putting in the work and making things happen. And yah. I agree with routines being good or bad.... Some people are perfectly happy in their routines and their current world. For them, fine, they can live their lives in their happy routine. Other people want something other than their current routine, but let the routine be the excuse for why they can’t reach their goals. “I can’t do THIS because of THAT” That’s where I think it’s a problem, When your routines because roadblocks to your dreams. I don’t think that’l ever stop you. ’Cause when you want something you chase it and make it happen. |
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Post by Kimpie on Oct 22, 2019 21:37:47 GMT
Haha, I got it the other way last summer...what if I had done that, would I be happier now? I am in that routine...I'm 37 and in a 18 year long relationship...don't get me wrong I love this man and my two adorable kids...but then I see people like you travelling the world without anyone to explain to what you're doing. I sometimes wonder what if I got no kids...I probably saw half of the world by now... And these days...it's just fucking work...but that's a whole different thing...I was happy in my job but some people ruining it now. OMG are you living my life hahaha! I'm also in a 18 year long relationship, kids (4) and all that. I can't go where I want, when I want. And if I decide to travel alone, that means less time and less money for my family 🤷 And traveling with 4 kids, money is obviously an issue. It's hard sometimes. 😞 Well, I have only two little monsters running around...but I adore them! But I know the feeling of not being able to go where I want and when I want it. Plus the job doesn't allow me to go when I think to... But I guess, a lot of people would die to have the relationship I have...I can say we survived some storms together but we are still standing strong and we still love each other. That's another reason why I love the Queen so much I guess...I think they are great couple...and then I realise: I have that too But when I see Dani travelling around the world to follow P!nk...then I think: aaah without kids I would probably could do that too...now I'm just happy to see her once or twice  |
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Post by heehawes on Oct 26, 2019 10:39:59 GMT
Haha.
Still two months til the movie comes out,
And I think I’ve solved most of it.
There’s lots of “leaks” and spoilers online, but nobody knows what’s real and what’s fake. I’m reading like every piece and working to work it out.
I think I know the ending though. 🤓
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Post by Dani on Oct 26, 2019 10:45:08 GMT
OMG are you living my life hahaha! I'm also in a 18 year long relationship, kids (4) and all that. I can't go where I want, when I want. And if I decide to travel alone, that means less time and less money for my family 🤷 And traveling with 4 kids, money is obviously an issue. It's hard sometimes. 😞 Well, I have only two little monsters running around...but I adore them! But I know the feeling of not being able to go where I want and when I want it. Plus the job doesn't allow me to go when I think to... But I guess, a lot of people would die to have the relationship I have...I can say we survived some storms together but we are still standing strong and we still love each other. That's another reason why I love the Queen so much I guess...I think they are great couple...and then I realise: I have that too But when I see Dani travelling around the world to follow P!nk...then I think: aaah without kids I would probably could do that too...now I'm just happy to see her once or twice I donno how old you both are, but I think universe timed in P!nk in to my life perfectly in SO many ways. I can't say a five-ten years difference up or down in age wouldn't affected it all one way or another. As long as we appreciate what we have we'll come long |
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Post by Dani on Oct 26, 2019 10:47:44 GMT
One of my “friends” said routines is a thing that depends on how you see it, and what kinda energy you wanna “load” it with. Routines can be good and bad. Depends on what they are. I guess he’s right. And it’s pretty much what I tried to say. I want a life of good routines and not boring and bad ones. That’s it🤷♀️ You + Universe will make the things you want become real. Universe will give you the tools, and you will make it happen. And if the universe doesn’t give you exactly the tools you need, I’m sure you’ll forge your own tools and make it happen anyway. You’re good at putting in the work and making things happen. And yah. I agree with routines being good or bad.... Some people are perfectly happy in their routines and their current world. For them, fine, they can live their lives in their happy routine. Other people want something other than their current routine, but let the routine be the excuse for why they can’t reach their goals. “I can’t do THIS because of THAT” That’s where I think it’s a problem, When your routines because roadblocks to your dreams. I don’t think that’l ever stop you. ’Cause when you want something you chase it and make it happen. Was I drunk when you wrote this? I can't remember seeing it. Thanks booobehh  |
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Post by Dani on Oct 26, 2019 10:48:32 GMT
Haha. Still two months til the movie comes out, And I think I’ve solved most of it. There’s lots of “leaks” and spoilers online, but nobody knows what’s real and what’s fake. I’m reading like every piece and working to work it out. I think I know the ending though. 🤓 Star wars? You neeeerd! |
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Post by Kimpie on Oct 26, 2019 18:34:05 GMT
Well, I have only two little monsters running around...but I adore them! But I know the feeling of not being able to go where I want and when I want it. Plus the job doesn't allow me to go when I think to... But I guess, a lot of people would die to have the relationship I have...I can say we survived some storms together but we are still standing strong and we still love each other. That's another reason why I love the Queen so much I guess...I think they are great couple...and then I realise: I have that too But when I see Dani travelling around the world to follow P!nk...then I think: aaah without kids I would probably could do that too...now I'm just happy to see her once or twice I donno how old you both are, but I think universe timed in P!nk in to my life perfectly in SO many ways. I can't say a five-ten years difference up or down in age wouldn't affected it all one way or another. As long as we appreciate what we have we'll come long 37 now...following her music since I was 17 or 18...well the beginning, first thing I remember is 'There you go!'. But really in love with this women since my 27. First concert was one with a baby in the belly It was fun scaring the shit out of my mum...I was 8 months pregnant when she came here and I had standing tickets...aaah memories That tour saw her two times more and then never missed a tour. But the dream is to just talk couple of minutes to her, thank her for everything...would be great. |
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Post by qcpatdive on Oct 26, 2019 19:30:51 GMT
Well, I have only two little monsters running around...but I adore them! But I know the feeling of not being able to go where I want and when I want it. Plus the job doesn't allow me to go when I think to... But I guess, a lot of people would die to have the relationship I have...I can say we survived some storms together but we are still standing strong and we still love each other. That's another reason why I love the Queen so much I guess...I think they are great couple...and then I realise: I have that too But when I see Dani travelling around the world to follow P!nk...then I think: aaah without kids I would probably could do that too...now I'm just happy to see her once or twice I donno how old you both are, but I think universe timed in P!nk in to my life perfectly in SO many ways. I can't say a five-ten years difference up or down in age wouldn't affected it all one way or another. As long as we appreciate what we have we'll come long I'll be 40 in less than 2 months😬 I'm a little bit off topic, but recently, I was thinking about how our age impacts the way we love or perceive an artist. I always say that Madonna represents MY generation, because I grew with her music. And that Nirvana also represents MY generation because it was the music I listened when I was a teen. I was 14 was Kurt died. For me, it was the worst age to be during this terrible moment. And I feel that Pink represents MY generation because we have the exact same age, the same references, etc. That's what is amazing. Music is intergenerational. No matter our age, she can make an impact into our lives. Imagine being a teenager today and having Pink as a model. At one of the show I went, I talked to a 75 years old woman who told me that she discovered Pink 10 years ago when she just lost her own daughter who was the same age as Pink. She told me that she considered Pink like her daughter and that her music helps to soothe her pain. It was amazing to hear that. |
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